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Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 158
EAN num: 9780060930684
ISBN number: 0060930683
Label: Harper Paperbacks
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 400
Printing Date: April 01, 2000
Publishing house: Harper Paperbacks
Release Date: March 01, 2000
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Shy FactsShy children are not destined to be shy adults.Shyness does not equal low self-esteem.Shyness is not a 'disease,' personality deficit, or character flaw. Humans aren't the only species to experience shyness. Scientists have been studying shy cattle aswell as shy cats, shy fish, and shy dogs. Some of the world's most famous, richest, smartest and bravest people are shy.
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My conclusion is that the author of this book is extroverted. While he understands shyness, he does not have a comforting voice in this book.
While I am in the middle of my self-discovery and changing of my shy habits, the tone of this book only made me feel more unnatural and "wrong" so I put it down immediately.
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It has been several years since I very first read this book, and it is still a gem, its methods still vital. Before I found it there was a book by Philip Zimbardo that was the best around for about a decade. This book is full of ideas from a clear thinker.
Several years ago, I wrote:
I studied five popular books on shyness in the past few months, and I like Carducci's because his approach is based on intimate, detailed knowledge of shy people, as well as on his involvement with a Shyness clinic. Other books approached shyness from the point of view of theory (e.g. cognitiv/behavioral or psychodynamic) and missed the many methods of managing shyness that come directly from knowing shy people well. Two things I found overwhelmingly strong: 1) he works from a strengths perspective, looking at shyness not as a deficit, but as a personality trait whose inhibiting effect can be greatly reduced with dedicated individual effort, and 2) he has a method which is clear, goes step-by-step without the need for professional guidance, and is extremely easy to follow. It does take work....but you can get to "the successfully shy life."
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This is the very first book I've read on shyness and it's written very well. It seems that books like this are either written for an audience of Ph.D's who perform social research for a living, or for an audience with an 8th grade education. This book is neither - it delivers straight forward content in an articulate fashion that is both easy to grasp and enjoyable to read. I have tried several of the techniques described in the book and so far have had some pretty good luck. I'm very glad I picked this book as there were many to choose from and I basically just randomly selected one.
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I had to stop reading this after the very first chapter or two. It has a real "blame the victim" tone to it, and basically asserts that shy people are selfish, and think themselves all-important. On the contrary, most shy people have huge problems with self-confidence around others, and yet are some of the most generous people around. Don't buy this book if you're shy and are tired of being talked-down to and patronized by somebody who DOES NOT understand shy people and what they experience in life. I'm very shy, and have enough self-respect to put this book back on the shelf.
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I'm not as bad as some of the people he talks about in the book, but I certainly found a lot of examples that hit pretty close to home. Some of what he talks about being common for shy people was suprizing to me, such as having a much harder time communicating in loud places like bars. I always thought it was just me.
I also liked that he doesn't see shyness as a problem that needs to be fixed, but helps people who may struggle to become more successful with their shyness. I've always beat myself up about not being outgoing, and it was nice that he doesn't treat shyness like a personality flaw.
I also found it refreshing to learn that shyness isn't like your eye colour or something that can't be changed, but rather it's more like a learned pattern of behavior.
The book gives you advice on how to help you cope with your shyness in different situations, such as joining an ongoing conversation, dating, etc.
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