Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 302.346
EAN num: 9780806520773
ISBN number: 0806520779
Label: Citadel
Manufacturer: Citadel
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 289
Printing Date: June 01, 2000
Publishing house: Citadel
Sale Popularity Level: 719515
Studio: Citadel
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I've never read anything like this. It's the magic potent for sounding like an insider in every crowd -- even if you have nothing in common. It gives the right words and the right questions to ask everybody. And it's written very tongue-in-cheek. The book is a MUST for salespeople or anyone else in a job where they need to establish fast rapport with people.
Suppose you have a customer who is an Astrology buff, a Bird Watcher, a Bowler, A Rock Climber, a Hang Glider -- even a Bungee Jumper. Du'h. Whadda you going to say to them?
This book gives you the answers.
Or suppose you're intimidate by a beautiful Model, Actress, Dancer, or Flight Attendant? This book helps you over the hump and gives you just the right thing to say to sound like a knowledgable big shot.
Suppose you're at a party and find yourself intimidated by speaking to a highly respected and intimidating Doctor, Lawyer, Scientist or Brain Surgeon? Don't worry. You can sound knowledgable and very cool.
At very first I was astounded that the book got such bad reviews on Amazon. Now I understand why. The title is misleading. Those readers thought they were getting the techniques to talk with anyone. (For that, buy Lowndes' much more recent book with a similar title,, "How to Talk to Anyone." Definitely get that one if you want techni ques for conversing and communicating. It's fabulous for that.)
So, concerning this book, don't make the same mistake those other readers made. This one is NOT the one general communicating advice. But it is a fabulous and list of things to say to a wide variety of people. It's the answer for feeling speechless in any occasion.
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PROS: This is a 4.5 star review, but I don't get that option. I found the content of this book to be an excellent resource for establishing rapport and understanding with people I meet. Yes, it's true that you won't memorize every single question that's in the book. At least though, when you meet someone like a pilot or musician, key phrases will pop into mind and jog your memory. You will understand where they come from, and you will be able to have honest conversation about THEM without the blank stare. As a martial arts instructor, I can instantly tell if someone understands slightly what I do based on their questions in conversation. If someone asks "What style do you practice?" or "What's your training lineage," I know that I'm talking to someone educated about it.
CONS: My only qualm with this book is that its title is too close to Lowndes' other book, "How to Talk to Anyone." The title for this book should be "How to Break the Ice with Anyone: 150 questions to get people talking." It would have also helped if each section had a paragraph on what subjects and "outsider questions" to avoid. For me, nothing says "I don't know anything about your craft" like the question "How many boards can you break?" or "Hapkido? It's Karate right?"
Overall, I highly recommend this book as a supplement to "How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Steps for Big Sucess in Relationships."
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The other people who wrote scathing reviews of this book are buffoons. This is a very helpful book and here's why: No, it doesn't tell you "how to communicate." Get Dale Carnegie for that. What it does do is list "key words," general explanations and various other ways to *make others think that you're a part of their group*. Every closed group of people (accountants, athletes, the rich, filmmakers, etc.) have their own jargon that they use to recognize each other. Once you learn these key-words and are able to have even a minimal discusion about someone's special interest, you're in. They suddenly see you as a "kindred spirit." This is a book for people who are glib and interesting already and simply need a reference regarding a ton of specialists. Tremendous resource!
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The way the book is laid out, it would be a heck of a lot to remember. It would be like something out of a comedy if you asked what each person did, then looked it up in the book! The only people it will benefit are certain kinds of salesman, who are looking for an "in" with a potential client. They would need to buy it. I gave it three stars, because it is good for the folks it should be serving, but not for everyday people.
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This is the single most useless and dissapointing book I have ever purchased. No one, who could have a chance to even flip through the pages would ever buy this book. If the author had any ethical integrity, she would immediately get this book off the market. Those of you who think that this book would have any redeeming value as a "reference"- dream on! Here's an opening line that she forgot to put in her book, "Hello, please wait while I set up my teleprompter".
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