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Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 616.8521
EAN num: 9781886968004
ISBN number: 1886968004
Label: Sidran Press
Manufacturer: Sidran Press
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 440
Printing Date: May 02, 1996
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As the children of Vietnam veterans reach the age at which their fathers went overseas, veterans and their families, especially their wives, face new stressors in mid-life. Even twenty-five years after the end of the war, in many families life is still neither easy nor reliable, and the rules continue to change. The recent anniversary of the end of the war in Vietnam has focused attention on the long-term effects of the combat experience. In Vietnam Wives: Facing the Challenges of Life with Veterans Suffering Post-Traumatic Stress, Aphrodite Matsakis revisits the plight of the secondary victims of the war: the wives and children of veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder. The book explores the many changes encountered by traumatized veterans and their families as they face the difficult developmental stage of mid-life: retirement, the 'empty nest syndrome,' becoming grandparents, and, in many cases, separation and divorce. Matsakis deftly leads readers through the process of finding better ways to cope with new challenges and old. She explains post-traumatic stress disorder, its causes, symptoms, and the devastating long-term effects, including domestic violence, substance abuse, and suicidal feelings. To illustrate both problems and solutions, Dr. Matsakis extensively uses interviews with wives of Vietnam veterans who have lived through a variety of experiences. Intended primarily for wives of veterans, but of great interest to their extended families and close friends as well, this book provides compassion and support while pointing the way to recovery from post-traumatic stress.
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This book has helped me understand my mother better- she was a WW II Korea and Vietnam wife....should have read it sooner ...Also helps me understand my, unfortunately, "Vietnam" ex-wife a little better too. Worth the read for anyone wanting to understand the stress on those warriors left behind.
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This book has stories that I personally have never even fathomed. What an eye opener - I read this with an open heart, weeping the whole time.
I am very glad that I had read Nam Vet very first because without some background this book can be a bit much. I recommend this book AFTER reading something more general like Nam Vet and An Operator's Manuel for Combat PTSD. All these books show the reader a world that the average person is just not aware of, teaches compassion and shows us solutions.
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This book is not just for Vietnam wives, but the veteran, his family and anyone who wants to be informed about PTSD. It examines how the disorder is developed and how it affects the victim and everyone around him/her. The goal is to gain insight about how PTSD can be recognized, treated and ultimately lived with in a manageable state. It is clearly written and can be understood by non-professional people.
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PLEASE READ revision BELOW. I MADE THIS REVIEW BEFORE I KNEW THE TRUTH ABOUT LYING MEN WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HONEST WOMEN. I was married to a Vietnam Vet for 18 years. I knew his problems were war related but didn't realize the depth of all of his depression and violent behavior. In the introduction of this book, I read what other wives have written and wept. I was one of those women that lived in a unsure and abusive world. A world that I had to protect my children from. My boys are adults now and the effect their father had on them before I left him has left scars. One son has gone on to study history and specifically Vietnam. He's the one with chronic depression and he is just finally understanding that his dad does love him, he's just numb. My youngest son still distances himself from his father. In time he will understand the truth.
Years have passed since my divorce. I have met another Vietnam Vet. He has some of the same symptoms. I will work on this relationship, because my Vet deserves to have someone love him and be there for him. I can only say that this book has helped me to understand the men of the Vietnam War era and appreciate what they went through for their country, for their families. I grieve for them and their horrid experiences in Vietnam. I have listened for countless hours to tales of unbelievable suffering.
I love my Vietnam Vet. I know that he is and always will be trying to overcome his past. I will be there for him to support him and I will not take anything personally except the love that he shows. He is a very sexy, strong, intelligent individual who experienced hell in a place he didn't want to be at a very young age. I salute him and all the Viet Vets who served and are still there in their minds. God bless them and their wives and families.
This is an awesome book that can only hit your heart if you have been there as a wife and a soldier. I see the mental anguish, and can only understand it because I have also experienced emotional trauma as a wife and as a child. Face those fears with someone you love and trust. A moment at a time.
UPDATED 11/06: Only a few months after reading this book and trying to understand this Vet I was "in love" with, I found out that he was a romantic deceiver. This PTSD man has ruined my life by taking everything I have. He lied to me about who he was and then tried to kill me, because I questioned his claims. Women beware of who you are "falling" for. Have them checked out before it's too late. This deceiver told me that he was a POW in Vietnam and a helicopter pilot that saved everyone. He is a hero only in his eyes. He is a liar, PLEASE BE CAREFUL, BEWARE OF MEN WHO DECEIVE. KEEP YOURSELF SAFE FROM ROMANTIC LIARS.
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This has been the most helpful tool guiding me in forming a close relationship with an friend of many years. The information here is essential. The author tells you what you must know it in order to understand your loved one and cope with stress-related behaviors. There are many helpful suggestions and resources listed. Author is an expert in Viet vets and PTSD. As a nurse with 20 yrs experience and a strong background in psychology, who has had a number of vet friends & coworkers, I knew a little about Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. Yet this book has really made a difference - I couldn't have managed without it. If you are in a relationship with a vet or even contemplating one, get this!
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