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Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 158.24
EAN num: 9781572244504
ISBN number: 157224450X
Label: New Harbinger Publications
Manufacturer: New Harbinger Publications
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 177
Printing Date: December 03, 2006
Publishing house: New Harbinger Publications
Sale Popularity Level: 26451
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Some couples need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When out-of-control emotions are the root cause of problems in a relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. What these 'high-conflict' couples need is help regulating the emotions that provoke the 'escape or win' mode of interaction that has come to define them.
In this book, a noted expert in the use of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) in couples’ therapy adapts this powerful set of emotion regulation tools. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you’ll learn how to deescalate conflict situations before they have a chance to flare into serious fights. Other techniques help partners in a relationship disclose their personal fears and vulnerabilities and validate one another’s experiences. Ultimately, you’ll learn how to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and how to find true acceptance and closeness with your partner.
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The skills outlined by Fruzzetti are easy to understand and practical to try in ones daily life with their significant other. The book highlights a skill called "validation" which most of us are not even aware of but is a behavior we perform daily. Increasing positive validation and decreasing nevative validation is a guaranteed way to improve your relationship. Once you see the results for yourself you'll be hooked!
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This book would be helpful for a couple who experiences intense emotional conflicts and for psychotherapists who work with couples experiencing these conflicts. The book uses the principles of Dialectical Behavior Therapy and the author had worked with Dr. Marsha Linehan to develop this model. The book was easy to follow and understand.
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This book really helped me understand some of the dynamics of my marriage that I had previously been confused by. I couldn't figure out how two people who love each other so much could rip each other to shreds in times of conflict. It's written very clearly and the exercises are great for helping you become more aware and less reactive. I would recommend this book for anyone who is struggling in a relationship and seeks to make it better.
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High Conflict Couple is a concise, easy to understand guide for couples seeking to deepen their relationship and ease their conflicts.
Its tone is a bit crisper, cooler, and more analytical than most marriage guides. This is actually its strength, speaking to the analytical half of your relationship in a straight-forward way they will appreciate and understand even if they shy away from most relationship-help books as being too touchie-feelie. The message is the same as many guides, that validation (lingo for healthy supportive loving communication) is the key to a happy, intimate relationship-- and it is the key. This book helps approach that need from the angle of couples or individuals who have already been conflict-prone.
The book has open-ended exercises that are useful if a bit vague, precise examples, and very good flow from chapter to chapter, start to finish. Even the layout is accessible with short measured segments that allow the reader to pause and reflect frequently.
Pair this with The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert for a complete set of paperback marriage counseling: that book contains many accessible examples, detailed exercises, and 2-person activities to try with your partner. I highly recommend the combination of the two books.
Regardless, if you're the emotional half of your relationship, get High Conflict Couple for your emotionally-challenged partner. If you're the analytical half, the guide will speak to you right away, and you'll wonder why nobody ever explained it to you in such a direct easy to understand way.
Highly recommended whether you are in a happy relationship, a struggling one, or struggling to understand why a relationship failed.
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Author Fruzzetti does a wonderful job of presenting the DBT interpersonal and mindfulness skills training in a way that allows my patients to begin a process of change. Although there is resistance when very first encountered, as the patient continues to read and put into practice the suggested techniques, i.e. "rule of three validations," the favorable outcomes result in their continued use. Recommended for all clinicians dealing with resentment and anger issues.
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