Books : Reclaiming Your Life: A Step-by-Step Guide to Using Regression Therapy to Overcome the Effects of Childhood Abuse
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Type of bind: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 362
EAN num: 9780452011694
ISBN number: 0452011698
Label: Plume
Manufacturer: Plume
Quantity: 1
Page Count: 224
Printing Date: October 01, 1996
Publishing house: Plume
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A step-by-step program designed to help victims of child abuse overcome the effects of their trauma offers help in breaking through repression and denial to relive the pain and to find healing. 15,000 very first printing.
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This is difficult work. The reviewers who bash this book can be understood -- it's absolutely petrifying to go into such painful memory. This is because it's not just your mind that stuffs away all the "child rearing" but it's stored in your body.
I'm doing this work with a therapist. It's scary, difficult, but absolutely life-altering. I am starting to see where I act like a child and where I'm back in my adult self again. It's unbelievable how many stimuli out there actually cause one to retreat into a child mentality -- a place where you have NO acess to your adult consciousness. This isn't mysterious -- it just takes a lot of work and a deep commitment to being aware. Look at your interactions throughout the day... if a boss yelled at you and you felt depleted the rest of your day... if you are upset with someone but can't express it... the list is long, but it's unique to YOU and how you experienced your parents. Yes, the truth is not that they were BAD PEOPLE, but in how you EXPERIENCED them. Most people will say, "why bother to look at the past, it's gone!" This book will show you that so many childhood feelings STILL RULE YOUR PRESENT LIFE... and how to acess and transform them. Be patient... this is not easy. Oh, and by the way, I had the misconception that I had to have actual, overt trauma in order to say I had a "troubled" childhood. The truth is, that even impatience and yelling -- let alone spanking or sexual abuse (which can be everything from actual physical rape to something as "innocuous" as a comment about one's anatomy) -- are traumatic to a child. I'm a lot clearer about all of this as a result of this book. If you've read Alice Miller and want to know how to heal, get this book.
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I'd love to know what book these other reviewers read - I got nothing out of this book. It is very dry writing, doesn't site very many examples, and misses my needs completely. I was emotionally abused and got absolutely nothing from this book - no tips, no insight, nothing. This is more for people who weren't directly abused but had other childhood flaws - like having alcoholic parents, or parents who weren't there for you because they worked and also took care of the home. This book sites a couple piddly examples of alcoholic parents and latchkey kids, but it didn't really get even to the depths of those troubles. What, specifically, make these kids hurt? It doesn't really explain it. So the reader has no idea how THEY got to be how they are, and leaves them clueless as to how they themselves got this way. Where are these alleged examples that are supposed to be step by step and help you? There are NONE. No examples, unless you count a brief and piddly list on some views that kids have and turn them into adult views. Such as: No one loves me. vs the adult - there has to be someone out there in the 2 billion earthlings who would love you. How can this tripe even be a book? If this is the best she's got... she must have gotten her degree at Clown College. This list goes on to site more examples how there's got to be SOMEONE on the planet that doesn't think you are lame, a waste of time, have bad taste, etc. Well if you are going to use logic like that, then I say this: There's GOT to be a better book out there. For certain. Waste of time book!
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It's not too late to reclaim your life--read this book and work alone or with a competent therapist to understand first, why you need to reclaim your life and second, how to do it. You will be amazed. This book is a must read for anyone struggling with identity issues which have arisen from growing up with faulty parenthood. This book is an excellent resource, whether you are beginning your healing work or are stuck somewhere along the way (i.e., attempting to re-work your childhood issues through your current relationship).
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She is a formidable authoress and there are points here unraveled in no other books out there (with the exception of non American authoresses like Alice Miller.). Author Miller reveals the truth and leaves us in want and hopelessness, Reclaiming Your Life is the answer.
The withheld half point was due to the following very RELEVANT point, not mentioned in this book. How can this highly relevant point not even be mentioned in a book such as this? The point I want to make is we, as kids had been smart[er than given credit for or we allow ourselves to be aware of]. As kids, the most hopeless and helpless Truth is not that which is stated in this book, but the following - it's that of our UPCOMING FATE. We knew. We knew the unavoidable-ness of our situation, our forthcoming terrors - that not only is it like this NOW, BUT IT WILL BE FOR OUR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD. THAT NOT ONLY DO WE SUFFER NOW BUT WE HAVE FORTHCOMING DREADS, FOR THE NEXT 15-20 YEARS.
Now this, IS hopeless, because there is nothing we could or could have done about it. Now ... the question is ... this most relevant and dreaded point ... WHY has there been no mention? Now that I dare mention it, how the hell are we supposed to FEEL hopeless and helpless, when these things kill adults and not just kids?! Let me again stress that the situations did not just feel hopeless, THEY ARE HOPELESS, AND WE DID MISS THE FECKON OPPORTUNITIES OF CHILDHOOD. THEY ARE LOST FOREVER. THIS IS A FACT and this very fact is the root of all our problems and what we want to avoid and distract from. The author does not once mention the mourning of this extreme, not just loss but the terror of unavoidable (hopeless) forthcoming losses still to come, over and over and over year after year after year after year ... (again, not just the losses but the continuous dread of forthcoming ones in addition to the losses themselves that this book is all about. It is the compounding, on top of occupying a small, weak and fragile body and mind which makes the situation authentically hopeless and the victim authentically helpless). THIS is real hopelessness. It's real and I will say again that this sort of thing kills strong bodied adults, NOT just kids. So where is the hope for ADULTS SO THAT WE DON'T DIE NOW?...it is in the Law of Karma. The Law of Karma says that our parents are INDEBTED to us, and that we shall be paid. Justice will be done and Truth prevails. The book voids of this most relevant point and it is such a missing link. Too bad.
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I think we could usefully back away from the word "abuse" in a lot of instances....let us just say that parents do a LOT of things that injure their children on emotional and even deeper levels, injuries that continue to cause pain and dysfunction all their lives unless the children can figure out how to repair the damage.
Setting aside the overuse of the A-word, this book does four things very well: first, it defines and gives examples of the major categories of things that parents do which are seriously injurious. Second, it calmly shows how those childhood injuries continue to do damage in adult life. Third, it makes the point that by the time the injured child is an adult, there is NOTHING THE PARENT CAN DO to undo the injury. But fourth, wonderfully, it gives step by step instructions as to what the injured child, now an adult, can do to reduce or even end the damaging effects of those childhood injuries.
If you couple this book with the books of Harville Hendrix, you have POWERFUL tools for enabling yourself to live much MORE happily ever after!
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